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La carta de amor de John Steinbeck

Hoy he vuelto a sacar de la estantería, una vez más, uno de mis libros favoritos: La transformación de la intimidad. Sexualidad, amor y erotismo en las sociedades modernas. El mismo título descubre que no se trata de una novela, sino un estudio sobre la sexualidad, la intimidad y las emociones escrito por el sociólogo Anthony Giddens en 1995 y que recomiendo sin pestañear.

Mientras revisaba sus palabras y mis anotaciones sobre el “amor romántico” y la “sexualidad plástica”, he recordado la carta que John Steinbeck escribió, cuatro años antes de obtener el Premio Nobel de Literatura en 1962, a su hijo Thom cuando este le confesó que se había enamorado de Susan. Steinbeck, que era un gran amante del género epistolar en la intimidad, le contestó con una carta en la que le explicaba su visión sobre el amor. Sin duda, habría mantenido una interesantísima conversación con Giddens.


New York
November 10, 1958

Dear Thom:

We had your letter this morning. I will answer it from my point of view and of course Elaine will from hers.

First—if you are in love—that’s a good thing—that’s about the best thing that can happen to anyone. Don’t let anyone make it small or light to you.

Second—There are several kinds of love. One is a selfish, mean, grasping, egotistical thing which uses love for self-importance. This is the ugly and crippling kind. The other is an outpouring of everything good in you—of kindness and consideration and respect—not only the social respect of manners but the greater respect which is recognition of another person as unique and valuable. The first kind can make you sick and small and weak but the second can release in you strength, and courage and goodness and even wisdom you didn’t know you had.

You say this is not puppy love. If you feel so deeply—of course it isn’t puppy love.

But I don’t think you were asking me what you feel. You know better than anyone. What you wanted me to help you with is what to do about it—and that I can tell you.

Glory in it for one thing and be very glad and grateful for it.

The object of love is the best and most beautiful. Try to live up to it.

If you love someone—there is no possible harm in saying so—only you must remember that some people are very shy and sometimes the saying must take that shyness into consideration.

Girls have a way of knowing or feeling what you feel, but they usually like to hear it also.

It sometimes happens that what you feel is not returned for one reason or another—but that does not make your feeling less valuable and good.

Lastly, I know your feeling because I have it and I’m glad you have it.

We will be glad to meet Susan. She will be very welcome. But Elaine will make all such arrangements because that is her province and she will be very glad to. She knows about love too and maybe she can give you more help than I can.

And don’t worry about losing. If it is right, it happens—The main thing is not to hurry. Nothing good gets away.





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